This Must Be The Place!

Do you ever feel sad or down because of something someone else has said about you or done to you? Do you allow that to hang around and affect your mood for the day or even longer? If so, then you are allowing someone else to hold the key to your happiness. Of course it is hurtful when you hear someone talking about you in a negative light. And it is sometimes heartbreaking when you go through trauma where someone has done something to you that you didn’t ask for. But, if we stay there in that pain and allow it to affect the way we view or treat others, then we have relinquished control of our happiness to someone or something other than ourselves. It is really easy to do, I have done it a million times. Being in control of your own happiness is easier said than done when you are hurting. It is a daily struggle that I found takes daily, conscious effort to get in the right mindset. The mindset that no matter what comes my way I am going to find good in it. The mindset that I am worthy and I am loved no matter what anyone else may say about me. Start today, fresh, renewing your mindset and taking control of your own happiness. You’ve got this!

Have you recently gone through a difficult divorce? Are you still grieving that lost friend or family member? Did you just get a tough medical diagnosis? Have you recently had to move away from the only home you have known for years? There are so many times in our lives where we must be brave for ourselves or even for other people. Do you put on a brave face when you are dying inside? It is very easy to do. Sometimes we do it because we don’t want anyone to know our real stories. At the end of the day, we may only be hurting ourselves by keeping it all inside. If you want encouragement from 8 very brave women who have lived to tell their stories, check out this book in the Lightbeamer Series. https://amzn.to/3UJ8UV4

I talk a lot about learning that my vulnerability is a super power over the past five years. One thing I still get hung up on is when/how to be vulnerable at work.

According to Culture Works HR, 60% of Americans struggle to maintain a healthy balance between their professional and personal lives.

Quora says that vulnerability is natural and should be embedded within any company’s culture. “It creates trust and promotes acceptance and empathy when giving and receiving feedback. It also helps with effective problem solving and decision making.”

According to Toner Buzz, 85% of companies that offer work-life balance programs report an increase in productivity, while 33% of employees with a good balance say they plan to stay longer in their current role.

The fear of making connections and being vulnerable can stem from various sources, such as past traumatic experiences, fear of rejection or abandonment, low self esteem, or a lack of trust in others. This is true whether in your personal or professional life.

So how can you change that?
-Focus on building self awareness;
-Practice active listening;
-Share your thoughts and feelings appropriately;

Do you have a difficult time being vulnerable? Try a few of these to help get you started.

Even when things get tough, stay the course, don’t give up. Hang in there and don’t throw in the towel. Set small goals for yourself, don’t try to get from A to Z all at once. Get an accountability partner that will not allow you to give up on yourself. Ride those rough waves and stay in the course!

Whether you were told negative things as a child or you experienced trauma as an adult, it takes time to flip that script and unlearn that negative mindset. A few things you can do to help: 1) Fill your home or office with words of affirmation and positive sayings. 2) Surround yourself with people that lift you up and are a positive influence. 3) Speak kind words to yourself, whether in the mirror or silently in your heart. For more tips and ways to get rid of your ‘stinkin thinkin’, reach out to me to discuss.

False Evidence Appearing Real

Sometimes fear comes from things that are only conjured up in our mind. The debilitating feeling when you approach something unknown and cannot control the outcome. The paralyzing thoughts of an expectation that cannot be met. Luke 12:32 tells us to “Fear Not”. The Lord tells us 365 times in the Bible to not be afraid. One for every single day of the year!

A fear of heights is our lack of control of what happens when we are in high places. Our false evidence that says we are going to fall if we are up high.

A fear of spiders or snakes or other things similar is our lack of control of the unknown of that creature. Will we get bitten? Will we get sick and die afterwards.

A fear of being alone is our lack of control of whether or not other people will stay in our lives or if they will leave.

In many cases fear is caused by our lack of control of things. In those instances we have a choice…

Forget Everything and Run or

Face Everything and RiseFear isn’t logical. The anxiety that fear creates isn’t logical, but that doesn’t mean it’s nonexistent. How do you conquer your fears? Comment below… #fear #fearnot #fearisaliar #facefear #facefears #benotafraid #donotfear #donotbeafraid #nofear #nomorefear #conquerfear #conqueryourfears #iamnotafraid