Unlearning negative mindsets

Fighting the good fight sometimes is exhausting. You do the right things when everyone else may choose the wrong things. You stick up for loved ones in rooms where people are talking negatively about them. You go out of your way to help someone in need, knowing they could never repay you. Maybe you stay up late with your children to finish that last minute project they told you about. All of these things are wearing you out and you are tired. Take a deep breath my warrior woman. Your load may be great, but God is greater! He will never give you more than you can handle, even if sometimes you feel like you are at a breaking point. I understand where you are coming from, but more importantly, He understands. You’ve got this!

Have you heard the famous quote by Mahatma Gandhi, “Be the change you wish to see in the world”? Or what about the popular Michael Jackson song, Man in the Mirror? …”I’m starting with the man in the mirror… I’m asking him to change his ways”. The best way to see change in the world is to start with you! It is easy for us to complain about how things are going, or how businesses are run or about other people. It is much more difficult for us to make changes, especially when it comes to changing our attitude or our perspective. It is okay to have an opinion about things, but complaining will get you no where. I encourage you today, if you are feeling like complaining, stop and think… Is this productive? Will this change a single thing if I complain? The chances are it will not. Let’s be more productive and start making changes within ourselves first!

Do you need to remove your shades or do you simply need to open your eyes to certain things? Maybe you need to open your eyes to the beauty that is around you. But maybe you need to open your eyes to how someone may be treating you. Maybe you need to take the glasses aka blinders off. I think sometimes we choose to keep our eyes hidden for fear that we will see something that we suspected all along. A natural trauma response to avoid dealing with certain things is to simply act as though it doesn’t exist. If it doesn’t exist, it won’t be real and maybe the pain won’t be there. In order to get past the pain, sometimes we need to take the blinders off and face reality. Facing our situations head on, although likely uncomfortable, will allow us to move on past the trauma or thing you are hiding from. What do you need to open your eyes to today?

It’s been a while.

I hadn’t planned to step away for so long, but as life often reminds us, sometimes we need to go quiet for a while to truly listen—both to the world around us and the one within. I’ve missed this space, and I’ve missed you.

The past months have been a mix of introspection, stillness, and yes—writing. Not the kind of writing that ends up neatly formatted in a blog post, but the raw, messy, soul-deep kind that slowly becomes a book. Or maybe more than one….

There’s something sacred about stepping away from the noise, away from constant updates and quick captions, to create something that asks more of me. Something that requires time, heart, and a lot of patience. Writing a book is less like building a house and more like growing a garden—you plant seeds, wait, prune, water, doubt, replant—and eventually, you begin to see what it’s becoming.

So, where have I been? In short: I’ve been writing. And wrestling. And rewriting. I’ve been letting stories stretch and settle. I’ve been exploring themes that scare me, excite me, and leave me with more questions than answers. I’ve been learning how to trust the slow process of creating something meaningful.

I won’t pretend it’s been easy. But it’s been necessary.

And now, I’m slowly returning—with new words to share, new lessons learned, and a deeper gratitude for the time it takes to make something honest.

If you’re still here, thank you. Truly. Your presence means more than I can say. I look forward to opening this space back up—sharing parts of this journey, inviting your thoughts, and reconnecting over the things that move us.

Do you ever hide behind something? Maybe you hide behind a smile when you are really hurting inside. This smile might be a shield, protecting you from the outside world, making it seem like everything is fine even when it’s not. It can often feel like a necessity to keep up appearances, yet doing so can sometimes deepen the emotional wounds we are trying to conceal.

Perhaps you hide behind the busyness of your schedule, filling every waking moment with tasks and distractions. This constant hustle might keep you from having to confront deeper issues. It can feel safer to be busy, to avoid moments of stillness where uncomfortable thoughts and feelings might surface. But this relentless pace can eventually lead to burnout, leaving you feeling even more disconnected and exhausted.

Or maybe you are simply hiding behind the world’s idea and opinion of you, allowing societal expectations to stifle your true self and creativity. It’s easy to get lost in trying to meet others’ expectations, conforming to norms and standards that don’t reflect your true essence. This can be stifling, preventing you from expressing your unique talents and perspectives.

If you are hiding behind anything, I encourage you to come into the light. Come out from wherever you are hiding from, face your fears, and embrace your authentic self. Stand up for yourself and your values, regardless of what others might think. It might be challenging at first, but allowing yourself to be seen and heard can be incredibly liberating. By stepping into your true self, you not only honor your own journey but also inspire others to do the same. Embrace your imperfections and vulnerabilities as part of your unique story and let them become the source of your strength and authenticity.

Ride the waves of uncertainty and change. The only thing certain in life is that there will be changes. Changes in something as simple as the weather and as drastic as divorce, death, or job loss. If we can learn to “ride the waves” during those uncertain times, we can grow from those moments when the tides rise over our heads. Use the moments when the low tides come in to catch your breath. Take each wave as it comes to you and go with it. Don’t let it engulf you or push you to the floor of the ocean. Rise above your circumstances and ride the waves!