Every woman needs a “Hype Girl”! Someone that doesn’t compete with you. Someone that supports you. Someone that is genuinely excited when you win! Someone that sings your praises to others even when you are not around. We all NEED this type of person in our lives. Are you your own Hype Girl? Are you someone else’s Hype Girl? It doesn’t take much to support someone, sing their praises, compliment them or let them know they are awesome! Try it! I dare you! Be a Hype Girl!
Do you ever feel sad or down because of something someone else has said about you or done to you? Do you allow that to hang around and affect your mood for the day or even longer? If so, then you are allowing someone else to hold the key to your happiness. Of course it is hurtful when you hear someone talking about you in a negative light. And it is sometimes heartbreaking when you go through trauma where someone has done something to you that you didn’t ask for. But, if we stay there in that pain and allow it to affect the way we view or treat others, then we have relinquished control of our happiness to someone or something other than ourselves. It is really easy to do, I have done it a million times. Being in control of your own happiness is easier said than done when you are hurting. It is a daily struggle that I found takes daily, conscious effort to get in the right mindset. The mindset that no matter what comes my way I am going to find good in it. The mindset that I am worthy and I am loved no matter what anyone else may say about me. Start today, fresh, renewing your mindset and taking control of your own happiness. You’ve got this!
Fighting the good fight sometimes is exhausting. You do the right things when everyone else may choose the wrong things. You stick up for loved ones in rooms where people are talking negatively about them. You go out of your way to help someone in need, knowing they could never repay you. Maybe you stay up late with your children to finish that last minute project they told you about. All of these things are wearing you out and you are tired. Take a deep breath my warrior woman. Your load may be great, but God is greater! He will never give you more than you can handle, even if sometimes you feel like you are at a breaking point. I understand where you are coming from, but more importantly, He understands. You’ve got this!
Do you ever hide behind something? Maybe you hide behind a smile when you are really hurting inside. This smile might be a shield, protecting you from the outside world, making it seem like everything is fine even when it’s not. It can often feel like a necessity to keep up appearances, yet doing so can sometimes deepen the emotional wounds we are trying to conceal.
Perhaps you hide behind the busyness of your schedule, filling every waking moment with tasks and distractions. This constant hustle might keep you from having to confront deeper issues. It can feel safer to be busy, to avoid moments of stillness where uncomfortable thoughts and feelings might surface. But this relentless pace can eventually lead to burnout, leaving you feeling even more disconnected and exhausted.
Or maybe you are simply hiding behind the world’s idea and opinion of you, allowing societal expectations to stifle your true self and creativity. It’s easy to get lost in trying to meet others’ expectations, conforming to norms and standards that don’t reflect your true essence. This can be stifling, preventing you from expressing your unique talents and perspectives.
If you are hiding behind anything, I encourage you to come into the light. Come out from wherever you are hiding from, face your fears, and embrace your authentic self. Stand up for yourself and your values, regardless of what others might think. It might be challenging at first, but allowing yourself to be seen and heard can be incredibly liberating. By stepping into your true self, you not only honor your own journey but also inspire others to do the same. Embrace your imperfections and vulnerabilities as part of your unique story and let them become the source of your strength and authenticity.
I talk a lot about learning that my vulnerability is a super power over the past five years. One thing I still get hung up on is when/how to be vulnerable at work.
According to Culture Works HR, 60% of Americans struggle to maintain a healthy balance between their professional and personal lives.
Quora says that vulnerability is natural and should be embedded within any company’s culture. “It creates trust and promotes acceptance and empathy when giving and receiving feedback. It also helps with effective problem solving and decision making.”
According to Toner Buzz, 85% of companies that offer work-life balance programs report an increase in productivity, while 33% of employees with a good balance say they plan to stay longer in their current role.
The fear of making connections and being vulnerable can stem from various sources, such as past traumatic experiences, fear of rejection or abandonment, low self esteem, or a lack of trust in others. This is true whether in your personal or professional life.
So how can you change that?
-Focus on building self awareness;
-Practice active listening;
-Share your thoughts and feelings appropriately;
Do you have a difficult time being vulnerable? Try a few of these to help get you started.
Ride the waves of uncertainty and change. The only thing certain in life is that there will be changes. Changes in something as simple as the weather and as drastic as divorce, death, or job loss. If we can learn to “ride the waves” during those uncertain times, we can grow from those moments when the tides rise over our heads. Use the moments when the low tides come in to catch your breath. Take each wave as it comes to you and go with it. Don’t let it engulf you or push you to the floor of the ocean. Rise above your circumstances and ride the waves!
I’ve been a bit tied up the past few months with so many exciting things, and I can’t wait to share it all with you! Out with 2024 and in with 2025. It’s going to be a great year! Hey, what have you been tied up with these days?