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  • A Quiet Pause, A New Chapter

    It’s been a while.

    I hadn’t planned to step away for so long, but as life often reminds us, sometimes we need to go quiet for a while to truly listen—both to the world around us and the one within. I’ve missed this space, and I’ve missed you.

    The past months have been a mix of introspection, stillness, and yes—writing. Not the kind of writing that ends up neatly formatted in a blog post, but the raw, messy, soul-deep kind that slowly becomes a book. Or maybe more than one….

    There’s something sacred about stepping away from the noise, away from constant updates and quick captions, to create something that asks more of me. Something that requires time, heart, and a lot of patience. Writing a book is less like building a house and more like growing a garden—you plant seeds, wait, prune, water, doubt, replant—and eventually, you begin to see what it’s becoming.

    So, where have I been? In short: I’ve been writing. And wrestling. And rewriting. I’ve been letting stories stretch and settle. I’ve been exploring themes that scare me, excite me, and leave me with more questions than answers. I’ve been learning how to trust the slow process of creating something meaningful.

    I won’t pretend it’s been easy. But it’s been necessary.

    And now, I’m slowly returning—with new words to share, new lessons learned, and a deeper gratitude for the time it takes to make something honest.

    If you’re still here, thank you. Truly. Your presence means more than I can say. I look forward to opening this space back up—sharing parts of this journey, inviting your thoughts, and reconnecting over the things that move us.

  • A Shift In Perspective

    There are moments in life that completely shift your perspective—moments where gratitude doesn’t just sit in your heart, it overflows from your soul. Publishing my book was one of those moments.

    After months of reflection, writing, rewriting, and baring my most vulnerable truths, I finally released my words into the world. Hitting “publish” wasn’t just about seeing my name on a cover—it was about courage, healing, and allowing myself to be seen in a new light.

    The journey to this point wasn’t easy. There were days filled with self-doubt, where I questioned whether my story mattered. There were nights I stared at the page, tears mixing with hope, wondering if my words would touch even one person. But I kept going. And now, to see readers connecting with my message, finding comfort, courage, and clarity through my story—it’s more rewarding than I ever imagined.

    The gratitude I feel is beyond words. I’m thankful for every person who believed in me when I didn’t fully believe in myself. I’m grateful for the lessons that came from pain, for the growth that came through reflection, and for the opportunity to transform my journey into something that could help others find their own healing and truth.

    To everyone who has read, shared, or supported my book—thank you from the deepest part of my heart. You are part of this journey. Every kind message, every conversation, every moment of resonance reminds me why I wrote this in the first place.

    This experience has taught me that gratitude is not just about appreciating what we’ve achieved, but recognizing the beauty in the process—the challenges, the breakthroughs, the quiet moments of faith that carried us through.

    If you’ve ever dreamed of sharing your story, I encourage you to do it. Not for validation or recognition, but because your words might be exactly what someone else needs to hear.

    Today, I stand in extreme gratitude—not just for the finished book, but for everything it took to get here.

  • All tied up

    I’ve been a bit tied up the past few months with so many exciting things, and I can’t wait to share it all with you! Out with 2024 and in with 2025. It’s going to be a great year! Hey, what have you been tied up with these days?

  • Are you tired?

    Fighting the good fight sometimes is exhausting. You do the right things when everyone else may choose the wrong things. You stick up for loved ones in rooms where people are talking negatively about them. You go out of your way to help someone in need, knowing they could never repay you. Maybe you stay up late with your children to finish that last minute project they told you about. All of these things are wearing you out and you are tired. Take a deep breath my warrior woman. Your load may be great, but God is greater! He will never give you more than you can handle, even if sometimes you feel like you are at a breaking point. I understand where you are coming from, but more importantly, He understands. You’ve got this!

  • Be Uniquely You!

    The art of being uniquely you takes time and starts with knowing exactly who you are. Who are you at your core? What makes your heart sing? What sets your soul on fire? Discovering your unique identity is a complex and rewarding process that requires deep soul searching. Take the time to explore what brings you joy and contentment, what inspires you, and what drives you forward. Consider the experiences that have shaped you, the people who have influenced you, and the goals that you aspire to achieve. By delving into your true self, you can unlock your full potential and live a life that is authentic, fulfilling, and meaningful.

  • Change Begins With You!

    Have you heard the famous quote by Mahatma Gandhi, “Be the change you wish to see in the world”? Or what about the popular Michael Jackson song, Man in the Mirror? …”I’m starting with the man in the mirror… I’m asking him to change his ways”. The best way to see change in the world is to start with you! It is easy for us to complain about how things are going, or how businesses are run or about other people. It is much more difficult for us to make changes, especially when it comes to changing our attitude or our perspective. It is okay to have an opinion about things, but complaining will get you no where. I encourage you today, if you are feeling like complaining, stop and think… Is this productive? Will this change a single thing if I complain? The chances are it will not. Let’s be more productive and start making changes within ourselves first!

  • Choosing Joy in Every Season

    Irrespective of the circumstances, I opt for joy. Life can be tough, and at times, the burden of our situation feels overwhelming. Yet, even when circumstances are beyond our control, I find solace in knowing Who is in control.

    Joy does not mean the absence of difficulties, it is a decision. A decision to have faith, to keep a smile even in rough times, and to appreciate the little things.

    Thus, today, regardless of what challenges I face, I remind myself: I will choose joy, because my heart is anchored in the One who sustains everything.

    What’s one small thing you can do today to embrace joy, even in the midst of uncertainty?

  • Do you have imposter syndrome?

    Do you ever have imposter syndrome? If you have, you know exactly what I’m talking about. That voice telling you that you can’t do something, or you’re not good enough or smart enough, or that what you’re speaking about you have no knowledge of. Don’t listen to that voice…

    • You are good enough!
    • You are smart enough!
    • You are capable enough!
    • You are knowledgeable enough!
    • You are enough!

    Walk into a room like you are meant to be there because you are. Speak up in instances where you have something to say because you do. Don’t listen to all of the background noise.

  • Don’t hide in the phone booth or behind anything else in life!

    Do you ever hide behind something? Maybe you hide behind a smile when you are really hurting inside. This smile might be a shield, protecting you from the outside world, making it seem like everything is fine even when it’s not. It can often feel like a necessity to keep up appearances, yet doing so can sometimes deepen the emotional wounds we are trying to conceal.

    Perhaps you hide behind the busyness of your schedule, filling every waking moment with tasks and distractions. This constant hustle might keep you from having to confront deeper issues. It can feel safer to be busy, to avoid moments of stillness where uncomfortable thoughts and feelings might surface. But this relentless pace can eventually lead to burnout, leaving you feeling even more disconnected and exhausted.

    Or maybe you are simply hiding behind the world’s idea and opinion of you, allowing societal expectations to stifle your true self and creativity. It’s easy to get lost in trying to meet others’ expectations, conforming to norms and standards that don’t reflect your true essence. This can be stifling, preventing you from expressing your unique talents and perspectives.

    If you are hiding behind anything, I encourage you to come into the light. Come out from wherever you are hiding from, face your fears, and embrace your authentic self. Stand up for yourself and your values, regardless of what others might think. It might be challenging at first, but allowing yourself to be seen and heard can be incredibly liberating. By stepping into your true self, you not only honor your own journey but also inspire others to do the same. Embrace your imperfections and vulnerabilities as part of your unique story and let them become the source of your strength and authenticity.

  • Embrace Your Inner Rockstar

    Peel away the societal expectations and external influences to embrace your inner rockstar! You are in control of your destiny and allowing what everyone thinks to define you or place you into a box is not living up to your full potential. Whatever your full potential is, do not let it be stifled by other people’s inability to see the true you. You make things happen. You push your limits. You step out of your comfort zone. You encourage other women to do the same and that is what makes you that ‘Fire in Your Soul’ Rockstar!

  • Endless piers/roads

    Do you ever think you are limited to one thing or the other? Are you limited in what you can accomplish financially? Are you limited in making your dreams come true? Are you limited; defined by what others say about you or who they think you are? I am here to tell you that the sky is the limit! The pier or road can go on for as long as YOU want. Don’t let others limit you or your ability to be who and what you want to become. Start today, knowing there is no limit in what you can do!!

  • Everyone’s journey is different…

    There are no two journeys that are the same. No matter how similar your circumstances are, no two paths are exactly alike. Influenced by life experiences, backgrounds and upbringings, and decisions made alone can cause your situation to be inherently different. Don’t compare your journey to anyone else’s, run your own race and forge your own path. You were given this life because you are uniquely you.

  • Finding Your Truest You: From Reflection to Reality

    After spending intentional time in reflection, pouring my heart into writing, and bringing Finding Your Truest You to life, I finally released it into the world.

    This was one of my most personal and vulnerable projects—one that demanded deep introspection and courage.

    Now, I’m excited to share that my quick guide to discovering your authentic self is available to everyone! Have you gotten your copy yet? If not, visit the Books section and grab yours today!

  • Floating Down the River of Life

    Have you ever felt like you were being swept along life’s river at a fast pace, trying to resist the current? Have you ever felt the tide dragging you down? In those alarming moments, what were your thoughts? How were you going to escape the current and avoid drowning? Life, like a river, can overwhelm you and sometimes make you feel like you are being pulled in directions you don’t want to go. It can even make you feel like you are about to drown. When that’s happening, simply take a deep breath (don’t hold your breath, that’s different) and float. When you are in a relaxed position, you are more likely to go with the flow instead of fighting a current that is taking you in another direction.

  • Hurry Up and Wait

    We’ve all heard the phrase “hurry up and wait.” It’s one of those sayings that feels both humorous and painfully true. You’re told to rush — to get ready, to move, to respond — only to find yourself waiting once you’ve done your part. Waiting for others. Waiting for answers. Waiting for life to catch up with the effort you’ve already given.

    It happens everywhere — in careers, relationships, creative pursuits, and personal growth. We hustle to be prepared, to show up, to be ready for what’s next. And then… silence. Stillness. A pause we didn’t plan for.

    At first, it can feel unfair. We did the work, we followed the steps, we met the deadline — so why are we sitting here in the in-between? But maybe “hurry up and wait” isn’t punishment. Maybe it’s a reminder.

    Life moves in cycles — of doing, and of becoming. The “hurry up” seasons stretch us to act, to rise, to prepare. But the “wait” seasons ask something deeper of us: patience, faith, trust. They remind us that no matter how fast we move, timing is something we can’t control.

    Waiting can feel empty, but it’s often where the unseen work happens — the healing, the maturing, the aligning. What looks like stillness on the surface is often the quiet preparation for what’s next.

    So the next time you find yourself in that space — having done all you can, sitting in uncertainty, feeling the tension between readiness and rest — remember: not every pause is a setback. Sometimes it’s just life whispering, “You’re right on time.”

  • I’m Your Hype Girl!

    Every woman needs a “Hype Girl”! Someone that doesn’t compete with you. Someone that supports you. Someone that is genuinely excited when you win! Someone that sings your praises to others even when you are not around. We all NEED this type of person in our lives. Are you your own Hype Girl? Are you someone else’s Hype Girl? It doesn’t take much to support someone, sing their praises, compliment them or let them know they are awesome! Try it! I dare you! Be a Hype Girl!

  • Keeping Your Glass Half Full

    Do you ever find yourself in the company of other people that are never satisfied or they complain about everything. Those people are “Glass Half Empty” kind of people. Nothing is ever good enough and their attitude tends to be more negative than positive. Don’t let those “Negative Nancy’s ” get you down. You have the innate ability inside of you to make a choice to see things with “Glass Half Full” eyes. If you are falling into that negative category, it is not too late to pull yourself out of it. Get that positive mindset that no matter what is going on in your life, you are going to find the silver lining. Find at least one positive thing about any situation and go from there. Each positive moment will build on itself, and pretty soon you will find that being positive becomes more natural. I challenge you today to “Be the Change you Wish to See in the World”(Mahatma Gandhi).

  • Kick up your heels!

    Have you been overworking yourself or filling every single moment with something? Do you need a little relaxation? Kick up your heels and enjoy the view. It doesn’t have to be the strip of Las Vegas to enjoy the view. What is your happy place, your tranquil place, your place of relaxation? Go there and kick up your heels! If you’d like to kick up these particular heels, or others that make you feel a little bit sexy, look no further than these links on Amazon to grab yourself a pair! https://amzn.to/4bqIoFV https://amzn.to/4dJQStt https://amzn.to/3QV1E6u https://amzn.to/3KclypL

  • Learn to Dance in the Rain

    In our lives we face moments where unexpected things happen, good and bad. It is impossible to prepare for every single life event. It’s easy to worry yourself sick trying to plan for every possible scenario, mountain to climb, bridge to cross or valley you will go through. Peace comes not from being able to predict or prepare for everything, but learning to eb and flow with all of life’s uncertainties. The next time you find yourself dwelling on the what ifs, refocus your thoughts to the present moment. And when the next storm comes, learn to simple dance in the rain.

  • Learn to Laugh

    Learn to laugh, even in the storms of life. Laughter is medicine for the soul and can be a great cure for those depression filled days. I have often said, “I had to laugh to keep from crying.” Some days that was true. But what I found in that was a shift in my mindset from focusing not on my circumstances, but on what good can come out of even the most difficult times. Sometimes all it takes is a shift in our mindset to be able to weather storms we are in.

  • Let This Be the Season You Choose Yourself

    You were never meant to live in anxiety and walk on eggshells;
    You were never meant to have to beg to be chosen or made a priority;
    You were never meant to carry the emotional weight of every room you walk into and every person you meet;
    And you definitely were never meant to be required to earn love, earn rest, earn being treated well.

    Let this be the season of life where softness becomes your normal and you learn to wait for exactly what you deserve.

    I’m here to help when you’re ready. My calendar will open in December for 2026 to book a free 30 minute discovery call. Let’s see where you are in your journey. #findingyourtruestyou #findyourself #findingyourself #beauthentic #authenticallyyou #beauthenticallyyou #beyou #resilienttx

  • Let Your Voice be Heard!

    It is time to elevate your voice! Speak up for yourself! Be heard when you have something to say! The 14 women in this book I am recommending have been through many of life’s challenges, and not only lived to tell about it, but also healed from it! These courageous stories were written to Inspire Strength, Perseverance, and Hope. When you are ready to find your voice, check out this book by clicking the link below! https://amzn.to/44qfGT0

  • Life’s Detours

    Don’t be afraid of life’s detours. None of us have a road map to life and it’s full of twists and turns. You may think you have it figured out and then a trial will come your way that will throw you off course. It’s okay. We will always have the ability to redirect our path. Give yourself a little grace.

  • Love is the Only Thing Worth Fighting For!

    What are some causes that you passionately advocate for? Are you fighting for gender equality, fair wages, or respect in your personal and professional relationships? Do you strive to make your voice heard and contribute meaningfully to important conversations?

    Love serves as the cornerstone of existence and is undeniably the most significant pursuit. Whether it’s your love for your profession, family, friends, or fellow beings, love is the force behind it all. Even self-love encompasses a multitude of aspects. Ultimately, love is a cause worth fighting for. Are you actively advocating for love in your life today? I wholeheartedly urge you to do so.

  • Never Quit!

    You might witness me facing numerous struggles, but rest assured, you will never witness me giving up! With each challenge, we not only grow but also gain a deeper understanding of ourselves. Through these trials, we discover our inner strength and resilience. We learn to rely on ourselves and realize that we have what it takes to rise again after being knocked down.

    Don’t lament over the hardships and trials in life. Instead, see them as opportunities for personal growth. No matter what you are going through, remember to never give up!

  • Open Your Eyes!

    Do you need to remove your shades or do you simply need to open your eyes to certain things? Maybe you need to open your eyes to the beauty that is around you. But maybe you need to open your eyes to how someone may be treating you. Maybe you need to take the glasses aka blinders off. I think sometimes we choose to keep our eyes hidden for fear that we will see something that we suspected all along. A natural trauma response to avoid dealing with certain things is to simply act as though it doesn’t exist. If it doesn’t exist, it won’t be real and maybe the pain won’t be there. In order to get past the pain, sometimes we need to take the blinders off and face reality. Facing our situations head on, although likely uncomfortable, will allow us to move on past the trauma or thing you are hiding from. What do you need to open your eyes to today?

  • Ride the waves!

    Ride the waves of uncertainty and change. The only thing certain in life is that there will be changes. Changes in something as simple as the weather and as drastic as divorce, death, or job loss. If we can learn to “ride the waves” during those uncertain times, we can grow from those moments when the tides rise over our heads. Use the moments when the low tides come in to catch your breath. Take each wave as it comes to you and go with it. Don’t let it engulf you or push you to the floor of the ocean. Rise above your circumstances and ride the waves!

  • Sip, Shop & Sign

    You’re invited to an unforgettable evening of shopping, connection, and authenticity! Join us for an author book signing event where you’ll have the chance to meet the author, enjoy light appetizers and drinks, and get your copy personally signed.

  • Sip, Shop, and Storytime: A Sparkling Author Afternoon

    Join us for a special afternoon of books, conversation, and boutique shopping! This unique author event brings together inspiration, creativity, and community—all in one beautiful setting.

    Enjoy mimosas while browsing boutique favorites, then meet the author for a personal book signing and intimate discussion.

    Come ready to mingle, shop, and celebrate storytelling in style. Bring a friend (or two!)—it’s sure to be a day filled with laughter, inspiration, and a touch of sparkle.

  • Stay the course

    Even when things get tough, stay the course, don’t give up. Hang in there and don’t throw in the towel. Set small goals for yourself, don’t try to get from A to Z all at once. Get an accountability partner that will not allow you to give up on yourself. Ride those rough waves and stay in the course!

  • Stop Trying to Fill Their Shoes — Walk Your Own Path Instead

    Do you remember being a kid and slipping your tiny feet into your parents’ or grandparents’ oversized boots? Maybe you even climbed halfway into them, wobbling around the house as if you were suddenly older, stronger, or wiser. Back then, it felt fun to imitate the people we admired. We copied their steps, their gestures, even their confidence.

    Fast forward to adulthood. You land a job once held by someone who seemed like a superstar, and suddenly you hear the phrase: “You have big shoes to fill.” But do we ever actually fill someone else’s shoes? Or do we simply try, fail, adjust, and quietly carve out a new path that feels more like our own?

    I thought about this deeply as I stared at an oversized chair on my drive home the other day. A literal giant’s chair—impossible for any one person to fill. And it made me pause. How many of us are still trying to squeeze ourselves into a role, an expectation, or a legacy created by someone impossible to duplicate?

    The truth is, some “shoes” just aren’t meant to be filled by a single person. Just like that giant chair, you’d need help, support, and teamwork even to get close. Life is a group effort. We grow because of the people who guide us, correct us, support us, and sometimes even challenge us.

    So if you’ve been trying to live up to someone else’s greatness, remember this: you’re not here to be a copy. You’re here to contribute something new. Their journey was theirs. Yours is yours. Don’t be afraid to step off the path you’re trying to imitate and begin walking in your own direction—one that reflects your strengths, your story, and your style.

    Because the world doesn’t need another version of them.

    It needs the first, real, and brave version of you.

  • Take Your Time

    Hey there! Did you catch the recent episode of the show where I talk about taking your time? If not, go to the Podcast tab and click the link to the replay of part 6 of the Truest You Series!

    Don’t be in such a rush for everything! What is meant for you will get to you in the exact moment it is suppose to, and not a moment sooner. The end result may not be in your favor if you rush through something, so TAKE YOUR TIME! #takeyourtime #righttime #wait

  • The concept of unbelief…

    I understand that the concept of unbelief can be quite complex and emotional.

    It’s not always easy to simply believe what is right in front of you. We often have preconceived notions that can cloud our judgment and make us want something to be a certain way. This can make it difficult to accept a different reality.

    It’s true that taking everything at face value might seem like a good approach, but in a world of deception and dishonesty, it’s essential to think critically and look beyond the surface. I understand how challenging it can be to navigate through situations where things aren’t as they initially seem.

    For example, if someone owes you money and you’ve been let down multiple times, it’s natural to feel anxious and untrusting. When you finally receive the payment, it’s easy to accept it at face value. However, it’s important to take the time to investigate (or count the money), just as you would in life. This way, you can avoid being let down and hurt in the future.

    I appreciate that life is full of complexities, and it’s not always easy to navigate through them alone. It’s okay to seek guidance and support from others. Sometimes others can offer a nonbiased perspective that will open your mind to a different way of thinking.

  • The moment everyone has been waiting for!

    I have created a 365-Day Journal Prompt book to coincide with my recently published book Finding Your Truest You!

    The prompts can begin as soon as you receive the book, or on a specific holiday or you can wait til January.

    It will cover topics addressed in my book like Authenticity, Healing, Spirituality, and Self-Love.

    There is no right or wrong way to use the journal. Write every day or when the spirit leads you.

    May these reflections bring you closer to peace, to purpose, and most of all, to Finding Your Truest You!https://www.facebook.com/share/v/17LzSbZiwx/

  • The Power of Self-Discovery: Uncovering Your True Identity

    In my journey as a Self Discovery Speaker and Author at Resilient, I’ve witnessed the profound transformation that occurs when individuals embrace the journey of self-discovery. It’s not merely about finding oneself; it’s about delving deep into the core of who they are and uncovering the essence of true identity. Join me as I explore the empowering process of self-discovery and its ability to illuminate the path toward personal growth and fulfillment.

    Embracing Authenticity

    Authenticity serves as the cornerstone of self-discovery. It involves peeling away the layers of societal expectations and external influences to reveal the authentic self that lies beneath. Embracing my own true authenticity has been liberating, allowing me to honor my unique qualities, quirks, and passions without reservation.

    Navigating Life’s Challenges

    The journey of self-discovery is not without its challenges. During my journey, I encountered obstacles and setbacks, testing my resilience. However, these challenges served as opportunities for growth and introspection. By confronting adversity head-on, I was able to cultivate a deeper understanding of myself and emerge stronger than ever before.

    Finding Purpose

    At the heart of self-discovery lies purpose. Through self-reflection and observation, I unearthed a profound sense of purpose that drives me forward each day. As a Self Discovery Speaker and Author, I am passionate about helping others embark on their own journeys of self-discovery, empowering them to uncover their true identities and live authentically.

    The Transformative Power of Self-Reflection

    Self-reflection is a powerful tool in the journey of self-discovery. By setting aside time for relaxation, meditation, exercise and other forms of stress release, I gained clarity on my values, beliefs, and aspirations. Journaling, and mindfulness practices have been invaluable in fostering self-awareness and guiding me towards personal growth and fulfillment.

    Embracing Change

    Self-discovery is an ongoing process of growth and evolution. It requires a willingness to embrace change and step outside of your comfort zone. By remaining open to new experiences and perspectives, you will continue to expand your horizons and uncover new facets of your identity. I know I did.

    In conclusion, the journey of self-discovery is a transformative experience that has the power to enrich every aspect of life. If you’re ready to embark on your own journey of self-discovery, I invite you to connect with me at Resilient. 

    Whether through speaking engagements, podcast interviews, or in my chapter of the Amazon best selling book Shine Your Light, I am here to support and guide you every step of the way. 

    Together, let’s uncover the true essence of who you are and embark on a journey of personal growth and fulfillment. 

    Feel free to reach out to me at (214) 681-0169 or via email at resilienttx@gmail.com or ameydeanne@outlook.com. I look forward to connecting with you!

  • This Must Be The Place!

    Do you ever wonder if you are where you are supposed to be? Do you question whether or not your life should have been different from what it is right now? Maybe you should have had different parents or different circumstances. However, I want you to know that you are exactly where you need to be. If you are going through a trial, once it’s over, you will have grown far more than you ever thought possible. If you are hurting, you will find healing and be able to use those painful moments to help someone else. If you are feeling lonely, have faith that God will bring the right people into your life to fill the voids. Trust the process. Trust the plan – His plan for your life. You have come to the right place for encouragement, and I know exactly where you are. If you need help talking through those or any other issues, please reach out to me.

  • Time to be brave!

    Have you recently gone through a difficult divorce? Are you still grieving that lost friend or family member? Did you just get a tough medical diagnosis? Have you recently had to move away from the only home you have known for years? There are so many times in our lives where we must be brave for ourselves or even for other people. Do you put on a brave face when you are dying inside? It is very easy to do. Sometimes we do it because we don’t want anyone to know our real stories. At the end of the day, we may only be hurting ourselves by keeping it all inside. If you want encouragement from 8 very brave women who have lived to tell their stories, check out this book in the Lightbeamer Series. https://amzn.to/3UJ8UV4

  • Trust your gut…

    It’s important that you hone in on the skill of trusting yourself and your gut instincts. That small voice in the back of your head that tells you not to do something. Listen to your intuition and trust that it would not misguide or mislead you. It takes practice and repetition, and seeing the proof in what happens when you don’t listen to your gut. I invite you today to begin practicing the art of trusting yourself. You’ll be glad you did.

  • Unlearning negative mindsets

    Whether you were told negative things as a child or you experienced trauma as an adult, it takes time to flip that script and unlearn that negative mindset. A few things you can do to help: 1) Fill your home or office with words of affirmation and positive sayings. 2) Surround yourself with people that lift you up and are a positive influence. 3) Speak kind words to yourself, whether in the mirror or silently in your heart. For more tips and ways to get rid of your ‘stinkin thinkin’, reach out to me to discuss.

  • Voila! What’s Bubbling Up For You?

    Voila! Ta da! Those are just a few exclamatory words to say, “There it is” or “Look what I have made”. Something you are showing to others that you are pleased with. You don’t think of that word as it relates to what you are creating because that would seem braggadocious right? You can spend years with an idea bubbling up inside of you and never letting it out, or you can take steps towards creating that life that you have always dreamed of. Whether it be starting a new career or business, or writing a book or creating something crafty. You owe it to yourself to release those ideas bubbling up inside of you. Don’t waste your God given talent because you are worried what others will think of it. Release it into the world so that everyone can appreciate it! This is your moment to say “Voila”!!

  • Vulnerability is a Super Power

    I talk a lot about learning that my vulnerability is a super power over the past five years. One thing I still get hung up on is when/how to be vulnerable at work.

    According to Culture Works HR, 60% of Americans struggle to maintain a healthy balance between their professional and personal lives.

    Quora says that vulnerability is natural and should be embedded within any company’s culture. “It creates trust and promotes acceptance and empathy when giving and receiving feedback. It also helps with effective problem solving and decision making.”

    According to Toner Buzz, 85% of companies that offer work-life balance programs report an increase in productivity, while 33% of employees with a good balance say they plan to stay longer in their current role.

    The fear of making connections and being vulnerable can stem from various sources, such as past traumatic experiences, fear of rejection or abandonment, low self esteem, or a lack of trust in others. This is true whether in your personal or professional life.

    So how can you change that?
    -Focus on building self awareness;
    -Practice active listening;
    -Share your thoughts and feelings appropriately;

    Do you have a difficult time being vulnerable? Try a few of these to help get you started.

  • What is Fear and how do you handle it?

    False Evidence Appearing Real

    Sometimes fear comes from things that are only conjured up in our mind. The debilitating feeling when you approach something unknown and cannot control the outcome. The paralyzing thoughts of an expectation that cannot be met. Luke 12:32 tells us to “Fear Not”. The Lord tells us 365 times in the Bible to not be afraid. One for every single day of the year!

    A fear of heights is our lack of control of what happens when we are in high places. Our false evidence that says we are going to fall if we are up high.

    A fear of spiders or snakes or other things similar is our lack of control of the unknown of that creature. Will we get bitten? Will we get sick and die afterwards.

    A fear of being alone is our lack of control of whether or not other people will stay in our lives or if they will leave.

    In many cases fear is caused by our lack of control of things. In those instances we have a choice…

    Forget Everything and Run or

    Face Everything and RiseFear isn’t logical. The anxiety that fear creates isn’t logical, but that doesn’t mean it’s nonexistent. How do you conquer your fears? Comment below… #fear #fearnot #fearisaliar #facefear #facefears #benotafraid #donotfear #donotbeafraid #nofear #nomorefear #conquerfear #conqueryourfears #iamnotafraid

  • What is Your Super Power?

    What if being vulnerable was your superpower? What if it’s the thing that ignites you and gives you the most strength? Sharing a piece of yourself to help someone else, opening up so that the real you can be seen. Shining a light on how you rose from the darkness. Showing the world that beauty can truly rise from ashes. Being vulnerable is not a curse; it’s a blessing. What if it were your superpower? What makes you a superhero and what is your power?

  • Wings to fly

    It is in the midst of change that we often discover wings we never knew we had. Sometimes change can feel uncomfortable at first, especially if it is not something that you initiated. Sometimes change is very necessary and you hesitate to be the one to make it. Sometimes changes happen in the normal course of life and we have a choice to make; either let that change overwhelm you or allow it to make you better. The choice is yours. Here are a few of my favorite things to remind me that God gave me wings to fly! If you need to be reminded, grab one for yourself. https://amzn.to/3woQNKQ https://amzn.to/3QyUTag

  • You are responsible for your own happiness.

    Do you ever feel sad or down because of something someone else has said about you or done to you? Do you allow that to hang around and affect your mood for the day or even longer? If so, then you are allowing someone else to hold the key to your happiness. Of course it is hurtful when you hear someone talking about you in a negative light. And it is sometimes heartbreaking when you go through trauma where someone has done something to you that you didn’t ask for. But, if we stay there in that pain and allow it to affect the way we view or treat others, then we have relinquished control of our happiness to someone or something other than ourselves. It is really easy to do, I have done it a million times. Being in control of your own happiness is easier said than done when you are hurting. It is a daily struggle that I found takes daily, conscious effort to get in the right mindset. The mindset that no matter what comes my way I am going to find good in it. The mindset that I am worthy and I am loved no matter what anyone else may say about me. Start today, fresh, renewing your mindset and taking control of your own happiness. You’ve got this!